this morning i sat on our couch, in front of the t.v. (of course), watching whatever seemed to be on which was nothing, at least worth mentioning. kramer was curled up next to me with his head rested on my lap and camden had just left for another day of work. a commercial came on and honestly i can’t remember what it was advertising for (that’s my memory skills for ya) but it showed a pregnant soon to be mom. i caught myself thinking that would be nice. this thought caught me off guard, ‘that would be nice?’. i will admit from time to time i have thought it would be nice to sometime have children, i just have never put a meaning to what sometime actually meant. i started to think, when exactly was sometime? could it be soon? honestly, i don’t know.
i don’t know how one knows they are ready to become a mom, i mean truly ready. when i think baby, i think: cute and fun and precious and of course a lot of hard work/dedication, but i don’t think you can truly know exactly what it entails until you can really experience it for yourself. how could i know if i could handle it, if my body would cope well with it, if we would be happy, all of us?
i don’t have all the answers to these questions and i don’t think i am supposed to. all i know is that i am ready to at least think about a baby and start making decisions that would eventually get our family to that point. the point where we could soon welcome one more member into our little family of three (camden, kramer, and me). the time has come where i we need to start making decisions.
It's amazing how these moments can catch you off guard! I know that I am nowhere near ready for that yet, but I do find myself wondering when I would be. A good friend asked me yesterday "how do you know D is "the one"?" and I couldn't really explain it. I just know that even when I question it, I only question it with my head, never my heart. I can't imagine not waking up next to him for the rest of my life. I really think it's just a case of "when you know, you know".
I hope you let your husband know you'd had this thought before sharing it with the internet 😉
Babies are still a scary thought for me, but it would be lovely to have one at some point 🙂 x
Yes I did. I wrote this post last night so I had time to share it with him before all of you, then posted it this morning:)
I'm getting married soon and my uncle gave us some great advice the other day. You will never be ready, financially or emotionally, for the huge events in your life (like marriage and babies). You just have to have faith and take the plunge! 🙂
I agree with Kaleigh. You and save money, prepare your home, but having a child is soul changing, learning experience. Every decision I make for the rest lf my life will effect more than just me…a lot of pressure.
I agree with Kaleigh. You and save money, prepare your home, but having a child is soul changing, learning experience. Every decision I make for the rest lf my life will effect more than just me…a lot of pressure.
You'll never be completely ready and only you will know when it's time to take the plunge; but for the record: momma-hood is truly the best gig in the world. I'm glad I took that leap of faith. *And just so you know, your personality and character shines through your posts and I think you'll be a wonderful mother when the time comes 🙂
we just got married, but i start to think this too, that it'd be nice to have a baby soon…i think my husband will need more time to mull it over than i will though 😉 we're starting with a puppy, we'll see how that does 🙂
aahhhhhh!!!!! noooOOOoooOOoooo!!!! Babies consume all resources and take over your life! Everyone says that they "can't even remember what it was like" before they had their child. It's because they take over everything….forever. lol just kidding but seriously that's huge
beautiful post. beautiful desire to have children- I like what the others said. just have faith! 🙂
xoxo
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So well said – I have 3 children – the first was an "accident" at 27 – my 2nd was planned, 5 years later, and my 3rd was a TOTAL surprise TWELVE years after that. What have I learned? That planned or not, and whatever stage your life is at, there is no "right" time, and in many ways the less planned children did me the biggest favors. They are all my greaest joys, my hardest work, my deepest struggles. Your words were beautiful; thank you for sharing them with us.
perfectly stated!
the hardest but, by far, most rewarding experience you'll ever have!